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Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed

By Bronnie Ware (who worked for years nursing the dying)

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. 

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it. 
2. I wish I didn't work so hard. 

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. 

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle. 

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. 

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. 

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly,in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. 

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip.But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks,love and relationships. 

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have sillyness in their life again. 
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again,long before you are dying. 

Goodbye May

Hello, Hi

We're already half way through the year.

Good luck for your exams everyone!

SWOT VAC

Last year in September, one half of my desk looked like this:

This is my other half of the desk at the end of May 2011: 

If you've read up to here - you too, my friend is procrastinating. 

May Thoughts

• Finishing off a small bowl of vanilla yogurt. 
• Installed Windows Live 2011 version. Five minutes later, I uninstalled it and reinstalled the 2009 version. 
• First up, Plant Structure & Function exam. 
• Chemistry and I are finally friends. 
• Family is outside watching the last episode of Oprah. 
• Nearing my one month at NQT. 
• Should I separate the nosy kids next week? 
• Grade 1 NQT Worksheet: 

"Sam caught a big fish on Saturday." 

Q: How did Sam feel? 

Grade 1 student's answer: "Fish" 

• Massive bruise on my left calf - slipped while walking home. Trees and their falling nuts! 
• Fiction, in Fiction, in Fiction.
• "All I need is a hug" days.
• I think I need a laser printer. 
• June 20th!!!! 
• In the need to explore and escape from all my worries. I want to go somewhere new, such as visiting the beach in Winter. Watching the waves greet the sand and feeling the wind, I want to be calm again and sleep easy for once. 
• Have the urge to watch Koizora again... 
• Never again, Caramel Frappuccino at Starbucks.
• Itouch 4 White Hard Case
• What does it feel like? Holding someone's hands? 
• Yes, I still miss high school. 
• I still can't drive into my drive way! 
• Brown boots and leather jackets 
• Doctor, there's this boy... 
• I thought I was cured until I heard the Friday song on Glee.
• I really need a reunion with everyone after exams! 
• Next month is June. NEXT. MONTH. IS. JUNE.
• That's about all that I can squeeze out of my brain on this lonesome Friday night.
• Finished the bowl of yogurt. 
• Here is me in May 2011: 

5 Centimeters Per Second

"I wonder since when, I got into a habit of typing out texts that I will never send" 

5 Centimeters Per Second (2007) 

"Told in three interconnected segments, we follow a young man named Takaki through his life as cruel winters, cold technology, and finally, adult obligations and responsibility converge to test the delicate petals of love"

How to handle rejection

Awww! Poor baby boy. 

Stage 2

I'm wearing your curtains

I am currently VERY interested in short, lace dresses with sleeves. Aren't they elegant?: 

 

Oh, and I also need a brown leather jacket too: 

 

Goodbye April

Why, Hello there

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Didn't expect to see you so soon!